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My Ex is Already Dating Someone Else. If your ex girlfriend (fiancé or wife) is already dating someone else after right breaking up with you, it doesn’t mean that you can’t get her back. It may take some time for your ex to lose interest in the guy if you don’t do anything about it because 65% of rebound relationships (a rebound relationship is the relationship a person has immediately after breaking up another long term relationship) end within 6 months. He might just be using her and will break up with her in a couple of months, or he might end up turning her off and getting dumped. If you don’t want to wait that long, you need to get stuck into fixing your issues (i.e. insecurity) and improving the things about you that caused her to lose respect, attraction and love for you. Watch this video to understand the process that your ex likely went though before breaking up with you and the process you need to guide her through to get her back… If she is already dating someone else, she usually won’t just drop everything with him and come running back to you on her own. So, what you need to do is get yourself ready to get on a phone call with her, get her to agree to meet up with you in person and then re-attract her at the meet up. Watch this video to understand why a lot of guys fail when trying to get an ex back and what you need to do instead to ensure that you succeed in getting another chance with her… As you will discover from the video above, your ex is only going to care that you want her back when you can make her feel the type of respect and attraction that she will need to feel to justify breaking it off with him and giving you another shot. It is possible to do (I’ve heard back from 100s of guys with success stories in this type of situation), but you have to be prepared to put in some effort to improve your ability to make her feel the type of respect and attraction that she wants to experience with you. The Shock of Finding Out That She is Moving On. What can be shocking for a guy after a break up is to realize that even before the dust has settled, his ex is already dating someone else. This can be upsetting to a guy for several reasons. Still in love with her and is hoping for a chance to get her back before she falls in love with the new guy and loses interest in the love that they once shared together. Wondering if she was already cheating on him or flirting with that guy before she broke up with him. If so, he feels betrayed by her and worried that he won’t be able to keep her or another woman faithful in a relationship. He is finding it difficult to meet a new woman because other women just don’t make him feel the same way as his ex does. Sit around moping and feeling unworthy of the love of women (including your ex). Move on from her by hooking up with new, beautiful women. Do what is required to get her back and then make the relationship even better than it was before. Getting dumped by a woman can be one of the best opportunities for you to ride that wave of motivation to get her back and use it to fuel your desire to become an even better man that you are right now. If you are serious about getting another chance with her, use that desire to focus on rapidly transforming yourself into the type of guy that not only she will feel attracted to, but most other women will too. Attracting women is a skill that can be learned. If a guy lacks the ability to make a woman feel a lot of attraction for his personality, confidence and vibe when he interacts with her, he will always struggle to pick up new women or keep a woman feel attracted when in a relationship. As you will discover from the video above, you can actually make yourself appear more attractive than the new guy that your ex is now dating. When you talk to her on the phone or meet up with her in person, she is going to feel more attracted to you if you are more charismatic, masculine and confident than he is in terms of how you think, behave and act around her. She will contrast you against him and if you suddenly seem more appealing, she will more open to hooking up with you again and giving the relationship another chance. At the very least, she will become more open to seeing you again and taking it slow. Decide What You Really Want With Her. Is it because your confidence with women has taken a hit and you’re feeling a hurt that she has been able to get over you so quickly?

Do you really think that she is the girl for you, or are you just trying to get some emotional revenge by getting her back and then dumping her when you are ready?

If you don’t care about her and are secretly intending to move on once you get her back, you might find it easier to just begin hooking up with new, beautiful women (who you find more attractive than her) and that will automatically fix your confidence issues with women. On the other hand, if you care that your ex is dating someone else because you are still in love with her and want to give the relationship another chance, then you should take action to get her back. The new guy she is dating might make her feel excited and happy for a while, but if he lacks the fundamental attractive qualities that women look for in a long term companion, she’s going to gradually lose interest in him. As long as you are making her feel attracted when you interact with her on the phone or in person, she will feel more attraction for you if she sees that you are confident and unashamed in going after what you want. She will be impressed that you have the balls to say, “I’m glad you’re happy with the new guy, but I’m not going to hide the fact that I want you back. I love you and I hope that we can have another chance to be together one day. “ Important: She will only be impressed by that if you’ve already gotten her respect back and have been making her feel attracted to you by the way that you come across over the phone and in person. If your ex feels nothing for you at the moment and you say something like that to her, she’s not going to say, “Wow!

He loves me so much – I should go back to him!” However, if you’ve been making her feel attracted to you and you say that, she will then think, “Hmmm…I guess I do feel differently about him now…I’m not sure what to do.” At that point, she will more likely to say, “Yes” when you ask her to catch up with you in person for a quick meet up to say hi. At the meet up, you can then get her respect back, make her feel more attraction and move towards a hug, kiss, sex and then begin seeing each other again. If you want to learn what to say and do at each step of that process, I recommend that you watch my awesome, proven to work program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System. Getting Her Back. Although getting her back might seem impossible to you right now because she is is already dating someone else, if you are prepared to do what it takes, it is entirely possible to get her to dump her new boyfriend and come back to you. She might put up with feeling horrible for a while, but if it goes on for too long and he ignores her hints that she’s feeling unhappy, she will eventually pull the pin and break up with him. For example: If a man continues to neglect his woman or place her needs last or close to last, she will eventually get tired of being treated that way. Some women will put up with that if a guy is very attractive and appealing in other ways, but most women can’t stand being treated like that forever. Likewise, if a man becomes too clingy and jealous and tries to control or suppress her, she will naturally lose attraction and respect for him and she will look for ways to let him know. However, despite the seemingly obvious problems with the relationship, a woman will rarely come out and say what’s really bothering her. Instead, she might begin to nag and complain by saying things like, “You’re so lazy, you never help around the house,” or “You’re always hanging out with your friends playing those stupid video games!

Why don’t you grow up?” etc. This is her way of saying “I feel like you’re taking me for granted” or “You’re neglecting me and you’re making me feel like I have to be the one who has to take the lead and be the grown up in the relationship.” Alternatively, she may start opening herself up to meeting and hooking up with a new guy who can make her feel the way she wants to feel. She might feel like it’s not worth the effort to nag and complain because her man clearly doesn’t have much of an idea on how to make her feel the way she really wants to feel. So, before you can get your ex back you have to understand the real reasons that caused her to lose love and attraction for you. By understanding the true cause of her unhappiness, you can then change those exact things and become the type of man she really wishes you would be. When you contact her and see her in person, she will be able to pick up on the fact that you really have changed in the ways that are the most important to her. A common mistake that guys make is when they realize what they did wrong in a relationship, they then rush to get in touch with their ex and make promises to change if she comes back. Saying, “I now know what I did wrong. If you come back to me I promise to change” is only going to push her closer to the guy she is now dating. By telling her you WILL change you’re showing her that you still haven’t fully understood her needs and now that she’s already got a new man who is, at least for the moment, giving her what she needs, why should she give up the ‘sure thing” for a promise that might never be kept? If, on the other hand, you put in some effort to fix your issues (e.g. insecurity, commitment issues, neediness, etc) before you contact her, you will be making it easier for her to connect with the old feelings of love and respect that she once had for you. By seeing a new and improved version of you, it’s only natural that her negative emotions towards you will change and she will open up to the idea of being with you again. These days, a lot of guys waste too much time and energy hiding behind text messages to women. This applies to guys who are trying to get dates with new women and guys who are trying to get an ex back. When a woman has broken up with you and has told you she hates you or not to bother her, it’s because she perceives you as being needy and desperate. So, if you text her for any other reason than to get her on the phone to arrange a meet up, she will simply assume you’re still being needy and annoying and she will ignore you. Why? According to many studies conducted by social scientists and psychologists, most of the communication between two humans is comprised of body language and tonality. So, when you send a text to your ex, because she can’t see your body language or hear your tonality, she has to guess at how you’re really feeling when you’re texting her. If she has a low opinion of you at the moment, she will usually guess that you’re being an insecure, needy guy who can’t deal with the fact that she’s already dating someone else…and she will then feel even more repelled by you. So, don’t waste time texting your ex!

The only time you should text her is to get her on the phone so that you can make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. When you make her feel that (which is 100x times easier to do on a phone call than via text), she will then more likely to say, “Yes” to meeting up with you in person. Dealing With the Pain of Losing Her. It can really hurt a guy’s self-esteem and feelings of self-worth when he finds out that the woman he loves is already dating someone else. Part of the reason it hurts so much is that it can make you feel insecure about yourself as a man and your ability to attract new, quality women. How could she move on so quickly after we broke up? Did she ever truly love me? Was that real love or was she just with me because it was convenient for a while? What if other women don’t feel attracted to me after the initial buzz of a new relationship wears off?

Will they break up with me too?

Will I get rejected when I approach new women and how will that make me feel?

Will I feel even worse and end up avoid women for years while I try to get over my ex?

What if my ex thinks that I’m a loser and laughs at me because I can’t get another woman while she’s already found another guy? These types of questions (and more) can be going through a guy’s mind if his confidence has taken a dent after being dumped by his girl. How about you?

How are you feeling about not having your ex in your life? Do you feel like you are good enough for her or other hot women? A big part of getting your ex back and attracting new women is having confidence in your sex appeal. You’ve got to know that you’re more than good enough for your ex and other hot women and if you don’t have that type of confidence, you need to begin building it up. Are You Ready to Take the Next Step in Your Journey? Whether you decide to get your ex back or find yourself a better, hotter woman; building up your confidence and improving your ability to attract women is the key. Rather than saying, “My ex is already dating someone else” and feeling like all hope is lost, decide to get motivated and start taking the action required to begin your new and improved life as a man. Want Her Back FAST? . I am a newly separated man. After years of infidelity on my part; I asked for a separation. I thought since I was the one that asked for this I…. I am a newly separated man. After years of infidelity on my part; I asked for a separation. I thought since I was the one that asked for this I would be able to walk away without feeling any hurt. I found out shortly after I left the house that another man. At first it did not bother me. It was not until her repeated rejection to my advancements that I realized that I am no longer the one she wants. I am having a harder time dealing with this than I thought I was going to. Does this mean anything or am I just going through the emotions and this will pass as time moves on? Let me get this straight. You cheated, asked for a separation, found out your wife was seeing someone, hit on her, and now you are upset that she doesn’t want to get back together?? To answer your question, yes, this will pass. You do not love your wife enough to stay with her. I don’t know the whole story and I am not judging you, but I can see very clearly what is going on. Your ego is very bruised that your wife decided to get over you and move on. So, my advice is, if you care for her at all, let her do that. Let her have happiness. If you were seeing other women in your marriage, she was probably hurt and sad and lonely. Now it appears she is happy. So, why does that bother you?

You chose this. Unless you have really ill feelings toward her, why wouldn’t you want her to be happy in her relationship?

Would you rather she sleep with you, and then regret it when you decide to leave again after realizing you don’t want to be with her? I will tell you that how you are feeling is very common. There are countless men and women who choose to leave, find out their spouse is seeing someone else, and then go a little crazy with jealousy and bad feelings. They may even create a false history and say their spouse was really the one who wanted the divorce and that he or she was cheating all along. I find that when people get upset that their spouse is dating, it isn’t because the person wants to get back together, but rather because it is the point when reality sinks in and there is a finality to the decision they made. Their ex has crossed over and they can’t believe it. So, they start to doubt their decision. It is only temporary, but it drives people nuts, and causes anger and bitterness. Additionally, the person might make the legal side of the divorce more difficult for their spouse because of their intense anger and jealousy. I really do think that in time you will come to accept that she is in a relationship that is making her happy. Don’t you feel like maybe you owe that to her? Honestly, I am not blaming you for your divorce and I don’t know the whole story. But you yourself wrote that you cheated and asked for a separation, so based on that, I think that answers the question. Being newly separated is really hard, whether you are the one who chose to leave or the one who was left. Add new romantic interests into the picture and it brings a whole new level of pain to what is going on. I get it. A couple recommendations I would make would be to go to therapy (please no eye rolling.) Talk to a professional about how you are feeling. I really believe it will help you. Secondly, I would take some time and really think about what you want moving forward. It’s OK to be by yourself for awhile or just date casually. Also, finding faith is very helpful, at least is was (and is) for me. Lastly, consider a heart to heart with your ex and apologize for your part in the demise of your marriage. She might laugh at you, she might yell at you, or she might say she is sorry, as well. But regardless of the outcome, you might feel surprisingly good by admitting some fault. Best wishes. Jackie Pilossoph. Divorced Guy Grinning is a blog for men facing divorce and dating after divorce. It's kind of like hanging out with your platonic female divorced friend and hearing her perspective on your divorce and your love life issues. Modifying Child Custody If Ex-Wife Is Dating A Sex Offender. I am unable to give you legal advice on divorce. I can give general divorce help for men, though, my knowledge is based on Missouri divorce and child custody laws where I am licensed to practice. Where I practice, the court “shall not award custody or unsupervised visitation of a child to a parent if such parent or any person residing with such parent has been found guilty of, or plead guilty to” certain offenses (enumerated and referenced therein) when a child was the victim. Thus, if your ex-wife’s is currently dating an individual who has committed one of the crimes listed in this statute, it is likely that there are strong grounds for a change in custody. Read Related Article: Generally, in order to change a child custody order, a party must file a Motion to Modify Child Custody and plead specific facts or instances which show a substantial and continuing change has occurred and that it is in the best interests of the minor child that the previous custody order be modified. In your case, the substantial and continuing change would be that your children are currently residing with a sex offender and that said living arrangement is clearly not in the best interests of the minor children. To arrange an initial consultation to discuss divorce rights for men with a Cordell & Cordell attorney, including St. Louis Divorce Lawyer Brittany Brown, contact Cordell & Cordell. Related. DadsDivorce Editor. Leave a Reply Cancel reply. Need a lawyer?

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You may be right. Usually, the gut knows the truth, according to relationship experts at MSN. One study found almost a fifth of women interviewed admitted to cheating on their current partners. That’s a scary statistic. Physical Signs Your Wife Is Cheating. Sign #1 – Her Age. According to the experts, the rates of cheating start to rise among girls in their early 30’s after they’ve been married for at least 7 years. Sign #2 – She Works, Works, Works. There’s no doubt that working women are much more likely to cheat on their partners than a stay at home mom. To add to this, they are more likely to get nasty with a co-worker. On the flip side, it’s the same for men. It comes down to opportunity. Naturally, we tend to fall in love with the people we are around most often. So, if your girl is working long hours with her co-workers, you might want to consider that she might be cheating on you, particularly if she talks about a guy regularly and especially if he isn’t hard on the eyes. Sign #3 – She Brings In The Money. Highly paid women are more likely to cheat; that’s a fact. The same goes for men. There is something about financial security and power that play into the mindset. When you take a second to think about it, it really does make sense. With money comes independence, and with independence comes the mindset you can get away with things you normally wouldn’t. If your girl makes lots of money and you suspect she is cheating, she is. Sign #4 – Was Hooked Up Before. The facts state second marriages are much higher in divorce than a first marriage. So, if your wife was married once or even twice before you, then you need to be wary of the fact she might stray. Be aware. Sign #5 – Affairs Run In The Family. Truth be told, often women that have grown up with a parent that has cheated wind up being cheaters themselves. Now, it’s really not fair to judge, but you do need to consider the proven scientific stats behind this point. Sign #6 – Your Girl Isn’t Happy With You. When a girl says she isn’t happy in her marriage, she’s more than five times more likely to cheat on her man than women that say their marriage is happy. Funny thing is, women think an affair is perfectly fine when they aren’t happy in their marriage. She’s likely trying to keep it together for the kids, which is super sad. Sign #7 – Your Wife Has An One Year Old Child. Studies show that women who have a one-year-old child say they are less satisfied with their marital relations. Weird but true. So, if you and your wife have a young child, it’s important to consider that your wife might be messing around on you. Sign #8 – She’s Not Religious. Gals who don’t attend church or synagogue are more than 3 times more likely to cheat on their man than a woman who attends her religious practice at least once a week. That’s a tough statement for me to accept, but I don’t have the scientific data to challenge it. Sign #9 – You’re Playing Poker And She’s Watching The Bachelorette. Too bad guys believe that, once they are married, there is no more work to do, that their wife will accept them as they are and be faithful forever. Talk about a stupid assumption. This is where the wife will wander off in search of a man who gives her value and meaning, pays attention to her, and makes her feel special. Sign #10 – Very Little Self-Esteem. One major reason a wife will go in search of validation outside her marriage is to find a man who gives her validation, a purpose, and makes her feel like she is beautiful and valuable. Sign #11 – Your Wife Is A Tad Nutty. Studies show it’s the gals who are a bit narcissistic and crave sexual excitement. Think of these women as the loose cannons that don’t really think about the consequences of their immediate actions. Sign #12 – This Gal Is Totally HOT. If you have a wife that’s hot, there is no doubt she is going to get hit on again and again. It doesn’t matter whether she is wearing a ring because guys are seriously relentless when they are looking for that hot and special girl to parade around. Sign #13 – She’s Getting So Much Hotter. This is a red flag signal your wife is cheating. If she decides suddenly to hit the gym daily to lose weight and get back her rock-hard body, you can be certain it’s not for you. Signal #14 – Introducing Toys. If your wife suddenly starts introducing sex toys or a favorite new position you knew nothing about, you can bet your bottom dollar she is cheating. A newfound interest in being sexy, in general, in a marriage is cause for question. Signal #14 – She’s In Ovulation Form. Research shows a woman that is ovulating nearly doubles her fantasies about other men. This just means you need to understand you are not the only man in the picture. Look at the facts here. If you aren’t the only man on her mind, that means she’s with or wants to be with someone else. It’s never easy to accept the fact your wife is probably cheating on you. In fact, that totally sucks. Consider these facts because it’s better for you to figure this out sooner than later. Is there an acceptable reason for your wife to cheat?

Probably not, but keep in mind there are two sides to every story. According to The Telegraph, many men and woman cheat and have been cheated on at some point. That’s pretty sad news!

Studies show men and women tend to cheat for very different reasons. Guys stray because they are searching for the “get the job done” sex, and women just want some sizzle with a dash of connection. Men seem to do just fine skipping that connection part. Makes perfect sense if you look at it from an evolutionary standpoint, where the men were providers and procreators, and the women were the nurturing type caregivers. When a woman isn’t happy with her relationship in the big picture, not just the sex, she will step outside the marriage to find that missing piece or pieces with another man. Type One – Miss Centre Of Attention. There are women who expect men to meet their every need, no matter how frivolous or ridiculous it is. She might set you up to fail miserably or perhaps she puts pressure on you to fulfill all her dreams and expectations. This type of woman is much less likely to be content or find satisfaction in a relationship. Her solution is to justify her wants, needs. and expectations and cheat, hoping to find a man that will give her everything her heart desires and more. Type Two – Miss Innocent Virgin. This type of women likely doesn’t know what she wants in bed or doesn’t have the guts to ask you for it. Too bad you can’t read her mind. Maybe she’s having a tough time picturing you as the father to her future kids. Because communication is everything, this woman will have no issues stepping outside the sanctity of marriage to try to find the man who will please her in bed. Too bad she didn’t give you a real shot! Type Three – Loving The Exciting High. There are women who fall into the arms of marriage expecting the honeymoon to last forever. When your wife craves the emotional excitement of desire and making love to a new partner, she might be stuck in the adventurous honeymoon phase, and this might push her to cheat on you. Type Four – The Mental Weakling. If a woman is self-conscious and doesn’t believe in herself, she often goes outside of herself to look for validation by other men. Essentially, she’s got a dainty ego that gets smashed easily. Think of her as a player who lacks self-confidence and has the constant need and desire to be told how amazing she is. Instead of working to get this from her marriage, she thinks it’s easier to step outside and have an affair. Type Five – Just Don’t Want To Be The Bad “Girl” This woman wants to break up with her husband, but she doesn’t want to hurt his feelings. She doesn’t want to be the “bad” one in the relationship. She might be afraid to be alone, and to make sure this doesn’t happen, she will cheat with one or more men to make sure she’s got a couple of possible replacements on the side. Time To Step Up The Plate…Is It ALL Your Fault?

When a marriage gets into trouble, you’ve got to step back and ask yourself what part of this is your fault. Over 90% of women who cheat believe they can justify it. In other words, it’s all “his” fault, and she’s got no issues shouting this out loud and clear. It always takes two to tango, but when a woman cheats on a man, regardless, it’s all on her. It’s called communication BEFORE you decide to break your marriage vows. Agree to disagree and move on. Cheat 1 – Behavior Changes. When your wife suddenly starts to change her attitude, and it can’t be explained, it’s out of the norm, you are wise to consider she might be sleeping around on you. Just be wary here because your gut instinct is often correct. Pay attention to how she is acting, and if she’s changing her language and shutting you off or not communicating with you like she usually does, she might be cheating. Cheat 2 – Null And Void With Intimacy. There are times when women just don’t feel like having sex, when they are on their period, or when they really do have a headache. However, if your sex pattern has changed without valid explanation and you haven’t had it in over a month, you need to think about the faithful factor. This physical sign is so obvious after the fact. Why would she want to have any intimacy with her husband when she’s getting her booty call with her lover? Cheat 3 – She’s Drifted Off. Many cheating women disconnect with their partners and become distant. If your wife shows a distant, yet aggressive, attitude toward you and her usual routines start to dissipate, you need to consider she might be sleeping around on you. If she seems irritated with you constantly and hardly looks at you, it’s a telltale sign she is making magic on the outside. She really doesn’t need you anymore because she’s apparently found what she needs in another man’s arms. Cheat 4 – She’s Suddenly Looking HOT! This is another obvious sign your wife is cheating on you. If all of a sudden, she goes on a diet, hits the gym, and starts getting her hair and nails done, you’ve got to consider she’s likely doing it for a reason other than you. Be careful here because she might be trying to look and feel better about herself just for her. You need to tread carefully and maybe drum up the guts to ask her why she is putting so much effort into looking hot. Reassure her you are crazy happy she is, but make sure she gives you the truth. Cheat 5 – Addicted To The Phone/Computer. Technology is both sweet and nasty. It’s too easy these days to hide behind a computer screen and muster up the guts to create relationships virtually that interfere with the real deal. Some women start fooling around with online dating sites and, suddenly, on paper, see the man of their dreams, or so they think, and they jump at the chance to connect face to face. If your wife is spending lots of time on her electronic devices, detached from you, it’s fair to say she might be dicking you around. Cheat 6 – Protective Of Her Phone. Suddenly, you might notice your wife is receiving more messages than normal. Perhaps she is protective of them. If she is very careful with her phone and makes sure she grabs it before you get to glance at it, it’s a sure sign she’s got something going on that she doesn’t want you to know about. Cheat 7 – It’s All About The Office. Studies show many cheats occur in the office. It’s tough to push away an attraction without strings when you work with a super-hot man every day. Sometimes, it’s too hard to resist. The only way to make a connection with a man is to spend time with him. Think about it. When you are working 8 hours with a man, five days a week, and you are attracted to him, it is super tough to resist. You see him more than you see your hubby. Cheat 8 – She Just Doesn’t Want You To Go With Her Anywhere. Perhaps you might notice she leaves home a little early or more often than usual. Of course, she has an excuse, like getting to work early to get some extra work done or dropping in to see a girlfriend going through a difficult time. Cheat 9 – Deer In The Headlights With Her Excuses. Cheat 10 – Scaredy Cat. If your partner is having trouble sleeping, experiencing episodes of depression and anxiety, and acting crazy strange, she is likely lying to you. Fear has a way of taking control away. If she is cheating, she will be afraid you will find out, no matter how disconnected you are. Final Words. It’s such a hardship when you are questioning whether your wife is cheating on you. No man wants to think that, but far more often than not, it’s true. You need to look at the facts and signals to give you all the information you need to know to figure out whether your wife is stepping outside your marriage to have some fun. Reader Interactions. Comments. Hi friend, thanks for your informative article, I have a question, recently I accidentally found an adult video in my wife’s phone sent to her by a man, she has denied ever watching it,kindly tell me an honest interpretation of this. My GUTT will not let me move on. It is constantly reminding me of the unanswered and questionable times. I want to move forward with her even if she cheated, but I need to know one way or another. Period. I’m starting to realize this may never happen. So what is next.?? How do I can I facilitate the end of the bad so that we can start our lives up again and move on. I truly do not know if she is being truthful about the past. My wife falls into just about every category listed. She suffers from Trauma(s) from early childhood and some symptoms that follow. She avoids any kind of conflict and will lie to avoid it. She is an extreme extrovert and needs socializing for fuel. I caught her in a “white lie” and that was a shock as I had never known her to lie about anything. Down comes the avalanche of the “realization of Reality” and what has transpired over the last 20 years. She has always told “little white lies” or omitted information by her words to “avoid conflict” and not for “hiding or cheating” purposes. I have experienced the avoidance of truth for the sake of ease and non conflict. So I am at a place I’m sure many have found themselves throughout time. We started counseling in April of 2018. She is undergoing EMDR to help with the trauma and symptoms and is making progress albeit slow, still progress. It may seem weird or strange that I would post in this thread while in counseling, but I have had a recent deluge of anxiety caused by the lack of “closer” per se’ for past events and questions that she lied profusely about in the beginning. The fact that she has NEVER been UP FRONT with anything from the past in the way of shadiness and that I have had to bring everything to her attention which has me VERY CONCERNED! This fact alone causes me, as it should anyone to question the Clarity of the past. Transparency equals Future. I have read so many stories that tell of the Cheating spouse never being able to admit or verbalize the cheating in its true form or in any form for that matter. I personally have been in a place as a teenager when I remember not telling the truth and not feeling like I could ever tell the truth of the event. So I know we are capable of withholding things even if we do not want to with hold them. This has me perplexed as to how to handle, learn and grow from this as an individual and as a couple. My wife caught me chatting with someone online, i told her it was a cam show thats all nowshe has a new girl at her job that they call each other “bae” she tells me this girl at work is younger and says how fine my wife is and my wife says she has a nice big ass so i went through her phone and seen texts saying how she misses her when she is not at work and calls her before work should i not be worried she has dated anotther female before. Dear friends, this article is really great to support the male spouse. I am the victim and the points which are listed above are really matching in my life and wife. Recently I got hurted when my wife was closely chating with the person in my home and in my absence, whom I know him he is my relative only but not a good guy. As per my knowledge she never allowed any one in my home in my absence, but on that day she allowed and was chatting with him closely. When I entered, it hurted me a lot, they both were acted like nothing happened. From that day onwards, I am very curious about her, because, I don’t want to repeat that again my life. From that day itself I am totally depressed and I left my job also. Kindly suggest me to come out from this shock, and help me out to come out of depression. I have decided for divorce. Kindly suggest. Don’t divorce its not the right solution, it hurts you for long time, please keep your wife happy and tell her how much you love her and her family. If she really understands your words she gets change her mind. Very informative. But still Lakshmi knowledge of how to really identify cheating Wife. Mostly men are to be blames, were easy going. Women are smart, hidious, smiling g, covering up cats. What A MAN wants is a real WOMAN,…. It can happen in any marriage. I thought all was ok and then I discovered my wife was cheating on me. I think it went on for a long time even after she said it was over. We are still together but it will never be the same. I gave her all she wanted to keep our marriage together. Lior Rozensweig, Karkur – Israel. I have been working outside the country for almost 5 years now going home for vacation every year expecting my wife to all loving but to my shocker am the one engaging her in s.x all the time and most of the time am the one on heat i hv been assuming this issue but of late my wife has been distant and she lies every time on money and location issues she does not want to associate with my family members like before arguers on the phone over little issue am soo confused and i can’t go home now until December i dont know how to approach this issue. Reading these posts I’d like to offer some advice. If you have caught your wife talking to another man or out right cheating or whatever, but you still love her and want to keep her, listen up. Women are attracted to many types of men. Sensitive, masculine, funny etc. but NO woman is attracted to a needy man who is emotionally delicate. She may feel sorry for you and want to nurture your wounded soul, but in no way is she feeling moist and aroused over catering to your whimpering ways. I KNOW its hard to do, but if you are confronting your woman over crossing the relationship boundary, do it with your head held high, not aggressive, not meek but with steadfast “matter of fact” assurance. It does not matter what her answer is. At this point delicately put your hand behind her head, look her deep in the eyes and slowly bring your lips to hers and give a long, deep, passionate kiss. One that says I’M the man in your life and I will not be forsaken. Now if she she cheated because you are an emotionally or physically abusive man, forget it. You have already lost. But if you have been a good husband/boyfriend, a good provider, a good lover…well.you have just been too much of a “good” boy and now is the time to tap into her innate need for dominance. After all, why in the hell do you think she strayed in the first place? It does not matter if the other man was better looking, taller, richer…it doesn’t matter. It is you she has been giving herself to all this time and she is waiting to be desired by the one she fell in love with. iwork as security gard meaning iwork at night only and she works as nursary teacher i only have enouph time with her during holidays.Of recent her time of coming back home has changed from mid day went up to 2:00pm and now upto 4:00pm and yesterday she came at 6:00pm when i asked her she doent give any reasom that they stay at school chating with her friends and marking books and at school they only female teachers is there apossibility that she is cheating on me? since we dont sleep at night together she works day and iwork at night. For what it is worth. I had a GF that I was pretty sure was cheating. I called a female friend of mine and she went to the bar that the GF mentioned as a favor to me. Well, she not only told me but took pictures whit her phone camera. OK, well, MY GF and I were not married. She had kind of moved in bit by bit. So, I changed the lock on my home. The GF was in my second car so I and my female friend went and got that too. I took the car to the dealership and got the keys changed. I went to the bank and opened a new account and closed the old one. I then hired a professional mover to pack everything she had at my house and move it to a storage facility. With both cars firmly locked up in my garage and ensuring she didn’t have access to one dime from me I was ready to move on. I called a private security company to keep a very close eye on my house after the ex GF and her “friend” showed up on my doorstep and had to be escorted off my property by the local police. I then called my female friend, told her how much I owed her for helping and asked if she wanted to go on a two-week vacation with me to St. Johns. Long story made short, cut your losses move on and make better choices who you let into your life. I’ve been working outside the country and went home last Feb 2018 and I was surprised with the reaction with my wife towards me and she don’t me to hold her, hug and do sex with me and again it happened just recently last March & April when I had my vacation same time happened. Small issues are always being argued at, can you please advised me if my wife has been cheating on me or if she’s still in love with me? Love does not cheat. Cheating is dirty. Cheating is risky. Cheating is sin. Cheating is exciting. Cheating is fun. Cheating is pleasurable. Cheating is adventuresome. Cheating is backstabbing. Cheating is a lie. Cheating is hypocritical. For a couple of days my wife would go out and stay much longer than necessary. Things that should not take more than 30 minutes but will be away for 2-4 hours. If I called her she wouldn’t pick. Sometimes her line would not be reachable. She will later give one flimsy excuse or the other. One of those days, at night I made attempt to stir he up so we can make love, she was not in the mood at all. Usually, she enjoys me playing with her, she was removing my hand. I became seriously confused and troubled. What do you think is happening to my wife? We had been very faithful to each other, and I never had any reason to suspect her before then. We have been married for over 10 yrs with 3 children. I have been with my wife for about 11 years now and we have three children but these days i feel something is missing,something is not right and she keeps on dying that she is not seeing any one. I caught my wife cheating electronically, she had asked for forgiveness confessing everything to me, she insisted there were no physical attraction just the electronics gadgets. They had met often which she also confessed, is this possible. Hi,I am 45 yrs old my is wife is 40 yrs old we have six children marriage past 11 yrs she stay at home I am thinking she cheating on me she has low self-esteem she want me to leave her at our farm but I don”t want her reason is she is not working why must she stay in town. I am a 45 year old man and this article saved my marriage!

I thought my wife was cheating with her boss but it just turns out they are just yoga buddies! In fact, we decided it would be better if she stayed over at his penthouse on the weekends for some good team-building exercises. I am so glad I found this article lacking any real quoted data instead of speaking with her directly. Isn’t the Internet amazing?? Congratulations to all of you who read and commented on this article. Whatever brought you to read this article (whether by accident or intentionally searching for an answer probably because you have been cheated by your wife, is still in denial or already have suspicions of your wife cheating), YOU have been enlightened and introduced to the new millennium of women not only being equal but more powerful, cunning and wicked than men to the point this comment might get edited or not even posted in this webpage. They have been corruptly influential in society nowadays…even in politics and porn. Am pretty sure they will be able to protect the society when faced with war or invasion when there are no more good men left because all of them were also sued for sexual harassment. Please Don’t get me Wrong. It’s not a bad thing. It’s an awakening and a pending realization of humanity on its numerous mistakes over time. Actually. gender, race, culture, religion, or financial status has nothing to do with cheating. People will cheat if there’s nothing to stop them from doing so. It all boils down to lack of love, respect, conscience, dignity and gratefulness. If a person (straight, gay, etc) has any of this…cheating won’t happen. It applies to all relationships (marriage, engagements, parent-child, siblings, business, politics, organizations, etc.) Am not the author of this article. I am commending and expanding it. Being a Devil’s Advocate for it. Kudos to the author of the article. It’s one of the bravest and realistic depiction of how women had become the men they despise for the past two decades. It’s one of the very few keyword search results on “cheating” that exposes women’s infidelity as opposed to the many pointing to men. Because Men are not so good hiding and controlling their emotions and keeping secrets compared to women. Men turned into stupid zombies and idiots, looses control when tempted by a woman. Think about those men your wives cheated with. They are all wrapped around her fingers to be partners in crime. As Father Tom said in my pre-divorce counseling, you wouldn’t know when a woman cheats. Everything is so weird flowery as if nothing bad is happening. Most men get caught and society find it more easier of a blame by branding them as pigs, prowlers, players or simply cheaters. And they get sued a lot and most of the time lose everything. Women seldom get caught. And when they do, society brand them as victims. Somebody made them do it. Just like Eve blaming the Snake. And Nope, they seldom get sued and always get everything even if they are the one who actually cheated. Alimony and Child Support. I’ve seen every time in Probate hearings. Somehow, The new age women had failed to be the better person and abandoned their primary role in society by trying to correct a wrong with another wrong. SIGN #25 Pretneding to go to a store that closes at 11pm after rushing the kids to bed at 8pm or pretending to return some clothes she bought before the store closes. (A favorite tactic of a woman I had an affair for year before divorcing her husband who is aVP of a famous bank) SIGN #26 Another good one is your wife frequently hanging with her girlfriend you don’t trust pretending to have a dinner at 7 then watching a movie and catching late night drinks. SIGN #27 Instigating or Starting an Arguments out of simple things and contradicting her own premise of her current dislikes which she used to like. And so MANY MORE issues that can be fixed as a compromise or answered with a simple yes or no but she doesn’t want to. Catch Phrase = “I Don’t Know” This I can attest from my multiple experiences from “Both side of the Fence”. Meaning being cheated myself several times, surviving to recover for more than 3 years both financially and emotionally AND eventually cheating with women who are somebody else’s wife or girlfriend. Yup!

I’ve seen it all. Slept with them, Treat them like a Queen, Cheated with them. Lied with them. Lied by them.They all have a common denominator. Once a Cheat. Always a Cheat. History Has a Tendency to Repeat Itself if you don’t learn or repent from your mistakes. Don’t think twice letting them go. They didn’t think twice when they cheated on you. Call it cruel you like. That’s nothing compared to their spite if you were the one who cheated. You will be slapped with restraining order denied visitation rights to your kids. And if you are married for more than 10 years, she still gets 50% of your pension and everything you own. Yet despite. Don’t even take revenge, it’s not worth it. Listen to men who have been there before. Most of the people who helped me are actually strangers giving me the unadulterated truth about the worst that’s gonna happen if I don’t clear my head when I found out. These are Police Officers, real estate agents, good women lawyers, priests, Divorced guys, re-married guys, and faithful wives of friends. You will find your true soul mate and true love. My mother did and never married again when my Dad died. My brother was lucky with a faithful wife. I have good friends who recovered. You will miss your calling if you keep on holding to cheaters or cheating yourself. I wasn’t that lucky but am working on it. Watch out for those signs. Trust your instincts. Your 6th sense is a gift. Animals have it too to protect them from bad things. And if You find out it’s true. be happy you found out soon rather late or never. You don’t want to be that guy who jumped the Tobin Bridge who’s wife cheated after more than 30 years of marriage. Always remember, it’s her loss not yours. You might hurt for a while but you will be the better person. And besides, you don’t want to walk a dog being humped by different dogs. You know something smells funky when it happens. U could not have typed this up any better this is the best Godly Wisdom for a cheating deceptive Eve. Eve died but that spirit is living on inside of so many dominant, controlling provocative females. Eve was wise enough to separate from her husband in the garden to go and obey satan the snake. After Adam warned her about that tree don’t eat from that one. So these women who are not repented and surrendered they are so easily drawn away from that husband and satan looks for that same garden of Eden opportunity to deceive that woman and if she is not deeply compassionately, in love with that husband satan will deceive her to eat from that tree. The tree she know she ought not be eating from. It’s called the knowledge of good and evil tree and the fruit she will bite into will not be a apple it will be ADULTERY. I’d be interested to see you site your sources for all of these so-called “studies” that you based your article on?

Go ahead…I’ll wait. hi my wife is looking at me like i know nothing and even if i do something she is keeps finding some problems. and always checking my phone even i don’t do any cheating she is checking the phone and without any reason she is coming to fight and when she is pissd she is using filthy words and not even giving me a respect always comparing other people in there family and advising (with argument words) so is that a sign that shez cheating? It’s a sign you both should try couples therapy. Clearly there are issues on both sides to be dealt with. If you continue on this path of pointing fingers and resenting each other you might as well find a divorce lawyer now and cut your losses. Good article. There is a real danger point in your relationship after you have a kid. The guy is used to being the center of attention and affection, and suddenly baby shows up and completely takes his place. A lot of guys turn into simpering, pathetic attention-seeking temper-tantrum cry babies at that point, and the woman has no time for it. She needs help with the kid, and discovers she has TWO babies to deal with. Her opinion of the guy behaving selfishly drops to zero, especially when the guy acts like she is not as desirable as she was before the baby. This is a vulnerable time and there are guys out there who will gladly take advantage of it by complimenting her on her abilities and her looks. She looks great to them! If you are feeling neglected after the baby comes, it is because you are not doing your share of taking care of it. Buck up a hole. Do your part. She made a baby for you. Anne Cohen Writes. Lifestyle & Relationship News Library. When You Catch Your Partner in an Online Dating Site. So you found that special someone, and you’ve been in a relationship for quite some time now. What’s good about your relationship is the fact that it’s based on a solid strong foundation built of what’s really important. Those important pillars are everything from having great communication, honesty, trust, and it doesn’t hurt that your partner is your best friend. The only problem is that you recently found out that throughout your whole relationship your partner has been on dating websites, swiping here, liking there, favoriting here, and emailing here and there with other people of the opposite sex. You feel betrayed, and as if everything that you’ve built and worked so hard in developing throughout your relationship was a bunch of bologna, and now you’ve lost trust with your partner. This is a very tough predicament for both people in the relationship. Despite whether or not the person was dating others, or simply communicating with others online was actually cheating, being unfaithful, or even if they were simply wanting a way to feel more confident about themselves, it doesn’t matter. Once your partner finds out that you were untruthful to them, your reasons (or theirs) likely won’t matter. The fact of the matter is that the reason is irrelevant. The reasons could be one of many things, but all that really matters is that they’re excuses. When someone is in an exclusive relationship, it goes without saying that being in an online dating website or app is wrong, and inappropriate. There’s no good reason or excuse why someone should be looking, swiping, or even chatting with someone else online. You’re supposed to be an open book, honest, and trustworthy to your partner. Having a dating site profile online and being active on it is beyond inappropriate and definitely a form of emotional cheating. Honesty is everything. If you need a confidence booster, then there are many other ways to go about it. If you’re keeping your options open behind your partner’s back, then that’s just plain old shady and messed up. As well, if you think that it’s okay to have a dating site profile active without your partner knowing it, it’s so messed up, and definitely a cause for rethinking your relationship altogether. There’s no good excuse to have a profile on a dating website, and not even if you’re thinking that it’s a good way to meet people or make friends. It’s incredibly selfish to think that “wanting to be social and meet people” would even be a reason. As a couple, and definitely, as a couple that has intentions for the long term (including building a life and family together one day), it’s important, to be honest, and an open book. I personally experienced something as such a while back, and I can honestly tell you that it was truly painful for me to think (or assume) that we were in an exclusive relationship, being that my partner at the time was on dating websites throughout the whole relationship. I never even saw it coming. I’ve definitely learned from that experience myself, and I’m hoping to spread the word and to let others know that no, it’s not okay, and you shouldn’t put up with it if you find out that your partner is doing this behind your back. The truth is, when you’re with someone in a relationship, you shouldn’t have to snoop or spy on the person, or even be suspicious of them whatsoever. You should definitely go into each and every new situation with a blank, clean slate, an open heart, and without bringing any baggage from previous relationships. You should think of your partner as your best friend, be trusting of them, and build your trust within the relationship by setting an example of being honest yourself. It’s okay if you get let down. But just remember, “the right person” will never go behind your back or look for someone else while dating you. As well, they’ll never have to try and convince you that what they’re doing is harmless, being that they’ve never met or slept with anyone else but you, despite being on dating sites. The right person for you will be your best possible match, honour you, respect you, appreciate you, and they’ll do anything and everything to make you feel their love by their words and their actions. More from Anne Cohen Writes. 16 thoughts on “ When You Catch Your Partner in an Online Dating Site ” What a fantastic article. Someone I dated was still on their sites and said he turned his sites off. Not only was he on his sites but he was active recently online and his profile shows when you were last online. I felt so hurt. It’s so important for couples to talk about turning sites off before being in a relationship and even more so, turning them off together. This happened to me. Someone I met online was still on a dating site and I thought we were exclusive. Guess not. Not a fan of dating sites but it’s hard to meet anyone these days. I’m sick about finding my guy on a dating site and then after digging around found him on other websites of the same type. His profile on the other sites looks older but anyway, he sent a message to a woman giving her his phone number just a few weeks ago. He said it was all a scam and he doesn’t know why this happened and why his pictures or profile was up. Said that his computer was taken over by someone and that he didn’t make the profiles. What?

Sure. I caught him years ago on Zoosk too, but he said that it was old and he forgot to take his profile down. It’s just so sad because I really liked him and loved him. Oh well. This is the second relationship I’ve had where this happened. The first I wanted out of anyway. I’m not trying for a third. Done! A friend of mine called me this evening to tell me she saw my boyfriend of 2 yrs on a dating site. I confronted him and he said it was old but pictures and info were all current. He then admitted to it and said he didn’t mean to hurt me and if he could call me. I told him to get lost and that what he did is hurtful and cheating. I love him but don’t want that in my life! I’ve been in a long distance relationship with a woman for the past eight years and a couple of nights ago, she called me and (drunkenly) told me that she had joined Tinder a week or so ago. She was obviously excited by all the likes she received (ego boost) and she made arrangements in the following days after joining to meet some of the men. She stated it was only “to meet friends”, but this comes on the heels of cheating incident a few months before. Although we resolved to continue after the cheating incident, the wound is still very fresh. The next day I confronted her and she told me she was very sorry and felt like a loser for her actions. She’s currently busy travelling (doing god knows what with god knows who!) so we still have yet to talk about the issue. When we do, I will explain that I can no longer continue with the relationship. My trust is broken and, even though I still love her, there is no future with someone who acts like this. If someone would have told me when I met her eight years ago that this would be how it would end, I would have certainly called them crazy! Cheating can be so disgusting and painful i know, because i have had my own shared taste of it, endless thoughts and ideas didn’t help much. I had been living with my boyfriend for Ten years. The first year he lied about being engaged to a woman in Australia. Two month ago he starts acting strange. He takes a weekend fishing trip that happens to not have cell service. On his way back I told him not to bother to come home. He desires to stop and spend 30k on a travel trailer. He proceeds to move all his belongings out because he says I don’t trust him. We are talking and trying to work things out. He lies again telling me he is at home sleeping. He was out drinking and purchasing flowers for four woman he sat with all night. Once I seen the photo and found he lied I blocked him for 4 days. We start talking again. He said he wanted to tell me something that might make me mad. He said he had joined a dating site. He joined this site after we split but only 1 day after saying he was not interested in dating or seeing other women. He said I was the only one. I am very upset about all this and he turns it on me saying I have trust issues. I love him but truly don’t believe I will ever trust him. We started the relationship on a lie and here we are again. I suggested a open relationship. He got really mad saying he could never do such a thing. He is not that type of guy. Yes, as hurtful as it is…. you have to move on. There is just nothing there anymore after that!. The excuses are lies. What gets me the most is how fake someone can be the whole time. Their loss. Hopefully, they find what they are looking for and stop using people in between. So you can find that person that really is on the same page as you. Don’t let it make you feel bad, like you were not enough… just dump them and move on. Won’t be long before your happy again. I have personally suffered a fair share of infidelity by my ex-wife who had multiple affairs during our marriage. I got a divorce after catching her in the act several times. Great article. Don’t trust anyone, it’s sad when your husband is having love affairs with your nanny, I noticed my husband is getting too much closer with my nanny Rita, my husband chats now in private, his calls are in secret and he changed his phone password, I was wondering what’s going wrong until I caught my husband cheating on me. Currently going through this now. I was told that he was “only looking”. This is about the 10th time i have caught him having inappropriate behavior online. Needless to say now that the holidays are over so is our marriage. Good thing we do not have any children together. I just had this happen to me last night and I’m so angry, hurt, confused, and I don’t even know where to begin. Of course, he does not admit it! He claims he has no idea who logged into the website, or how it’s saved in his phones web browser, w all login information, but hasn’t used it for years. Hmmm sorry not sorry, but shady lying pos. How do you deal with it? Wedding was 2 months away, bought a house together, and vehicles, and now what? I will cheat, just to get even, then what? What happens next? Wow! My fiancé and I dated for 14 months and moved in together before I found out that he was on about five different sites. Android phones have a text/voice type option in the history. I got the luxury of listening to all the sexting and Skype sex crap I was devastated. I am seven years younger attractive, and at the time he was about eighty lbs overweight. We had what I thought was a an amazing relationship. He checked outta the dating sites and I let him off the hook with a firm warning and a few fights and tears. My intuition told me it was still in the air. A few months later I checked the phone bill and low and behold lots of early morning texts. Like he walked our the door and began texting a woman. Actually, a few women, a few really overweight gross married women. I was crushed. Then the lies spiraled from there too. I contacted the husbands. I sent them the phone bills with the texts. I informed them off the searing dating sites etc. Then one woman had actually dated him prior to our getting together. Yes, and when I went on her Facebook page she had pictures of her inside his house. So, he lied about this being all “online fantasy” hmmmm anyway, I know he never physically cheated but this hurt more honestly. Anyway, I made his life hell. He is completely transparent 3 years later. I check now and again, but not like I used to. The only reason I stayed was because he was honest about his activity, really honest. He was remorseful, for his actions, and he worked on himself and proposed. I broke up with him etc. I was brutal, but you have to do it! Some men do it for their egos. Some men really like the attention and it’s a thrilling high. I towards the end of my long term marriage dabbled I it too. No sexting just plain chatting but the attention is exciting. So, be completely transparent and don’t allow anyone to try to be defensive, etc. if their not kissing your ass the get rid of them ASAP, and I only went back to a committed relationship because we got engaged and that’s the key too. If he wants yiu after effing around on dating sites then he has to step up the relationship to the next level….sorrry dude your bad,unfortunately he out both of you in this situation. Also, if your married and this happens downgrade the relationship until you see changes. People are gross and I will never trust other men’s wives again they are the most guilty. Hang in there and remember you are special, love yourself, live everyday for yourself and things your ❤️. We all have failures. You are responsible for your own happiness. I found my wife on a site called SEI Matchmaking and on MillionaireMatch last night. When I asked her why, she said she doesn’t trust me and wants a backup if I leave, preferably a rich one. I am a lawyer and make enough to buy her many nice things. Most recently a 4,000 dog. It is never enough it seems. Her phone is full of rich men wanting to meet her. She emails them hopeful messages talking about her need for chemistry and attaching many half clothed pictures of her in her underwear. She likes attention and says shes not cheating. I think she is preparing to leave me. For once in my life, I was faithful. Not cheating or flirting or texting with anyone since before we were married. She says things like, if we split up I want the dog. I ask why she says this and she just says she is worried about the dog if something goes wrong between us. She saves up money for air tickets to go home to her parents. I am worried that I have been conned out of all my money. I recall the lyrics of In your Eyes by Peter Gabriel…love, I dont like to feel so much pain. So much, wasted, and this moment keeps slipping away. I get so tired, of working so hard for our survival. I look to the times with you, to keep me awake and alive. But now that I found she is unfaithful in her heart and in her future plans, I have nothing but God to keep me alive and give me hope. Nothing on earth, no joy, no happiness, lasts very long. It’s all just slipping away, even as we experience it. And now I take no joy in anything. It’s very depressing and I’m not a depressed person. We have three young boys together. How could she think to leave, for even a moment. It can only be the work of pure evil. Very sad. I hope that your relationship is not like this. Find true love,and keep it as long as you can. Do not be the reason it fails. If you both feel the same, maybe you have the best chance to make it. However, young people, do not ever get married. Protect your assets and your heart. Dont ever do it. No matter how much you love them. Need help catch and find out about a cheating partner or spouse with evidence to back it up, spy and track on partners location, gain unrestricted access to partners mobile and get to see all texts, hidden and deleted messages, gain access to all call logs remotely without partner finding out and lots more. Find: certifiedhacker4real at G mail dotcom for helping out. If married and he cheated, I’d kill him. I’ve been through a divorce and it was amicable but I’m not going through that pain again. So yes, death is the only answer. Lol. I don’t ever want to think, consider or smell cheating…you know it has a smell. Just trying to get along is enough without bringing others into the picture. So yes, if dating I would walk so fast nothing could bring me back. It’s the deal breaker. Leave a Reply Cancel reply. Welcome to Anne Cohen Writes!

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Subscribe to Anne Cohen Writes. Follow us. Anne Cohen Writes. Everyday Inspiration. Anne Cohen’s Author Page. Blurred Out: How Mental Health Can Affect Eyesight. You probably think that visual problems are always caused by physical abnormalities, but it is possible to have blurred vision due to a mental health issue. 5 Guidelines for Finding and Buying Vegan Footwear. my pastor, brother, man tells court. Lagos – Worried by his wife’s adulterous acts, Mr Kolawole Okeeyi, a businessman, on Wednesday approached the Igando Customary Court in Lagos to terminate his 31-year-old marriage. “My wife is having affair with my pastor, I got to know when I did not have credit on my phone and wanted to use her phone to call our pastor to report her for starving my mother of food. “I picked her phone and I saw on the screen “sent message” I mistakenly press it and the message opened, I saw several love messages my wife sent and received from our pastor. “I showed her the messages when she came in, but she begged me, I seized the phone and later confronted our pastor with those text messages, but he told me to do my worst. “I also caught her with my brother in a hotel in Oyo State; I wanted to ignore them, but I later confronted them so that they will not deny later,” he said. “In Aug. 20, 2013, I got to the front of my gate, as I horned for my children to open the gate, suddenly three men jumped down from a motorcycle, pointing gun at me. “But for the timely intervention of the police, I would have been killed. When I entered my house, I told my wife what happened, but she did not say anything. “Four months later, while coming from work, three men intercepted me, pointing gun at me to come down and enter the booth, I complied and they drove me off. “But luckily for me, my phone rang, one of them picked it, the caller addressed me as pastor and said that I should come to the church early that I will be ministering, but I am not a pastor. “One of the guys said that they should not kill me that I am a pastor; that in the bible God said that they should not touch his anointed or do his prophet harm. “That same 2013, my only three buses that plied Port-Harcourt, Akure and Abeokuta were involved in accident and were condemned, I again informed my wife, but no response from her,” he said. Okeeyi said that because of these calamities and threat to his life, he ran away from the house he built same year to start squatting with friends. “My husband saw me and his brother in a hotel, but we are not dating, his brother just followed me to book for a room when I went for a burial in Oyo State. “When I was pregnant for our fifth baby, my husband’s family stormed our house, accusing me of having an affair, they beat me to pulp, in fact, I don’t know how I got to the hospital,” she said. 7 Reasons Why Dating Your Spouse After Marriage Matters. This guest post by Jason and Erin Champion originally appeared on their website TheHookahAffair.com. They have been married for 17 years. TheHookahAffair is an honest blog about real marriage. Honest. Simple. You can also find them on Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest. Erin and I only dated for three months before marrying. Yep, three months. Actually, we had only known each other for three months before marrying. We wouldn’t recommend that route for anyone but it has (by God’s grace) worked for us. We are about to celebrate 17 years together. I (Erin) always knew that I wanted to date Jason after marriage. But like most couples, we didn’t have very much money early on. Young kids completely depleted our energy so I didn’t give it a lot of thought. So I would say things to myself like “we will date when we have more money” or “we will date when the kids are older”. Please note, I would say those things to myself and rarely to Jason. I (Jason) was busy trying to figure out how to financially support my new family so dating my wife wasn’t something I ever thought about. re, we talked a lot about the vacations we wanted to take or all the places we wanted to eventually travel to but “dating” wasn’t on my radar. We both come from families of origin where a healthy marriage wasn’t modeled. So neither of us ever saw our parents date. We didn’t understand the importance of continuing to date one another after marriage. So much of the irritability, stress, discontentment and frustration in your marriage possibly stems from the fact that you have stopped doing the very thing that brought you together in the first place. Dating. Do you remember how you felt, before marriage, when you were going on a date with your then boyfriend/girlfriend?

The preparation. The anticipation. The butterflies?

It was usually a call, a text or depending on your age, a page (yes, Erin had a pager when we first met). But regardless, it was exciting. It was intentional. You would spend days thinking about what you were going to wear. Where you going to go. What you were going to talk about and how the night would end. It was AWESOME!

As our kids got older we had more time to be together. But at that point, we were in a serious rut of the occasional dinner together, maybe even a movie but our dates were still an afterthought and only happened when we had time. In retrospect, they weren’t usually real dates. Because when we did go out, our conversations were reactive. Talking about the kids, family, finances, etc. Let’s talk about why dating your spouse after marriage matters. There are several reasons but here are seven (7) for you to consider: 1. It keeps the romance alive. Let’s face it, the romance was the original draw, right?

You both want it and if you’ve lost it, then you both miss it. Dating will rekindle that spark and remind of you why you fell for one another in the beginning. 2. Dating your spouse lets them know they are a priority to you. Planning a date tells your spouse that they are still special to you. Just the idea that you took time to plan a night out or even a night in provides a sense of desire for one another. Date night says “you are special to me and you are worth my time and effort.” 3. It’s fun. It’s not a secret, dating is fun. Getting dressed up or even getting dressed down for a night out or in with your spouse is a lot of fun! 4. It models a healthy marriage for your kids. Your kids are watching. Men, do you want to show your daughter what a real man looks like? Date your wife. Women, do you want to show your son what he should expect from his future wife? Date your husband. 5. It’s cheaper than counseling and/or divorce. Dating is likely what made you want to marry in the first place. It has been proven that not dating and not being intentional is likely what will make you want to divorce. It will certainly lead to some real problems…if it hasn’t already. 6. Dating your spouse creates intimacy (in-to-me-see) Intimacy isn’t just sex. re, sex is part of it but intimacy is so much more than just sex. Dating your spouse will connect or reconnect you and your spouse at your core. 7. It keeps a sense of freshness and adventure in the marriage. Dating will keep you both engaged and gives you something to look forward to. It breaks the routine that all married couples fall into. A good and regular date night will breathe new life into your marriage. Your marriage has to be your top priority – over the kids, over your job over your hobbies. Your marriage comes first. If your marriage is inline, everything else will fall into its proper place. And intentionally dating your spouse is great way to keep you marriage at the top of your priorities list. Dating does not have to expensive, in fact, you can plan and go on an incredible date and not spend a dime. The quality of your date has nothing to do with the amount of money you spend on the date. The quality of the date has everything to do with how intentional and attentive you are when you are alone with your spouse. Both your kids and your cell phone can change a good date to a horrible date. So, if possible, leave them at home. If you must bring your phone on the date, then put them both in a purse and agree to only check them once every hour…just in case the babysitter needs you. But social media, even if you are just posting a photo to brag, can wait until the date is over. People with great marriages have great marriages on purpose. Great marriages don’t just happen. Both spouses have to be intentional in every aspect of the marriage. Erin and I have a total of four dates per month: Two “fun” dates and two “working” dates. We are each responsible for planning one of the fun dates every month. We will talk more about working dates in a future post but the accountability of planning one fun date a month keeps us both involved in bettering our marriage. We will share some of our date ideas in a future blog as well. We challenge you to make your marriage a priority by making date night a priority. Sit down with you spouse and plan one date night each over the next 30 days. Be creative and try to out-do one another. If you would like more evidence for the importance of dating your spouse check out my new 45 page ebook, 5 Scientific and 84 Expert Reasons to Never Stop Dating Your Spouse. It is free and no email is required. Feel free to share with anyone you think would benefit!


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